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april 12, 2025 @ 02:58 am | est. reading time: 2 - 3 mins | word count 388

the “dni” lists are stupid, actually

if you’ve been on the internet for a while i’m sure you’ve seen those dni/dnf (do not follow / do not interact) lists on people’s websites and/or social media... so here’s a question for you: do you really think people you want to avoid will be like “aww, man! i guess i can't interact now :c”?
honestly, putting up those lists isn’t gonna keep you safe, it’s actually doing the opposite. you’re lowkey asking for drama. all you’re doing is making yourself a target. like, you think putting a “don’t follow” sign out is gonna stop people? nah, it’s more like you’re giving them an invitation. humans are petty, and very spiteful on average, so when you’re like, “don’t interact,” it’s basically like you’re daring people to try you. like, when you tell someone not to do something, that’s basically a challenge. and we all know how people love to test those, right? it’s wild how, the more you say “stay away,” the more those exact people are gonna wanna slide into your dms or start drama.

nothing says “stay away from me” like literally putting a big neon sign on your profile that screams, “hey, please come and ruin my day, i dare you! here’s exactly what can upset me!!”. because, you know, the internet’s full of people who just love to ruin your day, and you’ll give them the ingredients on how to do it the most efficiently. it’s honestly wild how you’re just inviting people to test your boundaries. the second you put that “don’t come near me” energy out there, it’s like a green light for anyone who thrives on stirring the pot. like, congrats, now you’ve got the exact people you don’t want in your space, in your space. what you should do instead is silent blocks, if its on socials, or full-on ignore if it's via email or something.

honestly, at this point, you're basically setting up a neon sign that says “hey, come bother me!” when you post those lists. if you want to avoid drama, don’t make it so obvious you're asking for it. block, mute, move on: no need to advertise your boundaries. if you just handle it quietly, you’ll save yourself the hassle. but at the end of day, i’m not your mother, you can do whatever you want.

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